Love Has Everything to Do With It
A few years ago, I spent the night at my girlfriends house due to the power being out in my apartment. We fell asleep after having a fantastic dinner and making passionate love. Around 4 a.m. the next morning, she woke up and started drinking Vodka, straight. In a drunken stupor, she fell and hit her head on her kitchen table. The noise of her falling woke me up and I asked what was going on. Â She turned to me and said, “Get the f&%k out of my apartment.” I put on my clothes, gathered my things, and headed for the front door. As I was trying to leave, she kept trying to hit and kick me. I did not know what was going on, but left nonetheless. Two days later, I was arrested and charged with domestic violence. As it turned out, a guy who was trying to get with my girlfriend, got her drunk and talked her into calling the police and telling them I had put the bruise on her face, the one she sustained from her fall. After spending 8 days in jail, my attorney got me out. He intended to go to trial, put my girlfriend on the stand, bring up her alcoholism, her own run-ins with the police, her self-destructive behavior, and anything else to rip her apart. Â I simply could not go through with this. So, I accepted a plea of no-contest, served summary probation, and attended domestic violence counseling, which turned out to be very beneficial for me. Despite having a restraining order in place, my girlfriend and I have remained together. She is presently in a rehab program to treat her alcoholism. She is there because of her numerous arrests for being drunk in public and other destructive behavior. The judge who sentenced me knew that I was not guilty. However, the prosecutor needed the points. Perhaps taking a plea when I wasn’t guilty was foolish. However, I love my girlfriend very much and felt that her problems were a lot more serious and my sacrifice was a small price to pay for her sobriety and self-esteem.